I built this because the volume of advice is insane. Some of it is brilliant. Some of it is loud. A lot of it is just people repeating things they heard on the internet. This is one cohesive place to capture what we learned, what actually helped, and what I wish we'd known sooner.
Start HereThis is what worked for us. It's not gospel. Every family is different. Trust your instincts. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to other parents.
Curated checklists and product picks. What's worth the money, what to skip, and why. I did the research so you don't have to.
Browse the ListsStep-by-step frameworks for sleep, feeding, postpartum recovery, and working parent systems. The "how we did it" guides.
Read the ManualsNarrative reflections on what surprised me, what I wish I'd known, what we returned, and how things changed with baby #2.
Read Field NotesThe emotional reality of motherhood. Duality, identity, partnership, anxiety. Named, normalized, not moralized.
Read MoreEverything we used to get our baby sleeping through the night. Pause method, environment, and gear.
Read MoreControl the micro-environment. LED candles, playlist, and everything that made labor bearable.
Read MoreThe part nobody sells you. I found it way harder than giving birth. Here's the system.
Read MoreThe Kindness ClauseTo be a mother is to hold two directly opposing, strong desires at the same time. You will want nothing more than to be alone in a cold dark room, at the same time that you want your child snug in your arms. You will feel both of these desires on a deep, cellular level, and it's exhausting to navigate this duality. It does get easier with time, but it's always there. Just be kind to yourself as you adjust to this new reality.